All cat slaves treat their cats at home like their own sons and daughters, continually filling the cat bowl with food, putting on clothes when it’s cold or fanning it when it’s hot, and not forgetting to buy some toys for entertainment. But do cats really appreciate it? When you can’t help but want to touch or hold them, cats might suddenly bite you; on some lonely nights when you want to be comforted by your cat, it will reveal its defense claws and hide far away, making you helpless. Therefore, cat slaves must face a reality: just because we treat cats well, doesn’t mean cats will treat us the same. To build a good relationship with cats, we need to first understand what kind of person cats like.

　　To become the kind of person cats like, cat slaves must change themselves. Cats are actually very simple and natural; they don’t care about your business card or title, don’t care what brand clothes you wear, nor what luxury car you drive or what kind of mansion you live in, and even don’t bother to look at how much money is in your wallet. So, what kind of person can attract cats?

　　1. Indifferent people

　　This first point is shocking, isn’t it? Cats are the most self-centered animals. Usually, when they try to control the whole situation, it’s not because they enjoy feeling superior, but because it gives them a sense of security. If things don’t go as expected, they immediately become alert and seek a safe place to rethink strategies. So, when you enthusiastically approach a cat, their first reaction is not "this person seems to want to be friends with me," but rather whether this person has some ulterior motives. When uncertain, most cats choose to keep their distance.

　　Of course, this kind of indifference doesn’t mean disliking cats or having no interest in them, but means owners need to be appropriately indifferent. If you really like cats and want to get close to them, the first step is to ignore them. Even if you’re secretly cheering “Ah! Cat! So cute!”, you can’t show it. First, squat down to make your body smaller, and be careful not to make eye contact with the cat.

　　If the cat approaches you, you can extend your index finger in front of it. If the cat smells your finger with its nose, it means the handshake and greeting between you have succeeded. At this point, you can quietly and gracefully make contact with the cat until it loses interest and walks away.

　　Cats that naturally are uninterested in people or have been traumatized will ignore your presence. But curious cats interested in humans will care about those who ignore them. They might casually approach you, touch you with their tail, or sniff your outstretched finger, trying to leave their scent on you. At this point, you’ve already succeeded halfway. A few more contacts and the cat will be head over heels for even your cool aloofness.

　　2. People who are good at reading cats’ moods

　　This is very important for house cats.

　　If you can judge from a cat’s expression or attitude whether it’s okay to approach or not, you should get a “Mr. Cat Experienced Driver” license.

　　House cats are easier to observe, but street or feral cats are much harder to read. Cats’ emotions are fickle and hard to predict. Even the same cat might not have the same mood every time it sees you.

　　3. People who know how to pet cats to make them comfortable

　　There are many tricks to petting a cat. Whether you do it correctly or not not only determines if you get a cat’s kiss or a bloody claw mark, but is also crucial for your relationship with the cat. Generally, cats like owners to pet their vulnerable spots. The neck and chin are cats’ favorite spots to be caressed. When an owner gently scratches a cat’s chin, the cat often closes its eyes contentedly and purrs softly. But be careful, the carotid artery is here — a cat’s most vital spot.

　　Cats also like to show their trusted owners their belly for petting. The belly is the softest part of a cat’s body and contains its internal organs, making it their most vulnerable area. Cats like owners to touch their cheeks and whiskers, which helps increase the sensitivity of their whiskers. The five senses are sensitive spots too, so many owners get bitten when petting these areas as the cat suddenly raises its head and bites.

　　4. Quiet people who don’t speak loudly

　　Cats dislike children the most because children cannot control their emotions and are noisy. Dogs are similar. Children often make loud noises or scream, putting cats into panic, making them either run away quickly or freeze and prepare to defend themselves.

　　Cats dislike loud voices and rough behavior. Basically, compared to men’s lower voice, cats prefer women’s higher pitch. However, don’t think you can win a cat’s heart by mimicking a squeaky fake voice. Women who intentionally make sharp noises will only irritate cats’ nerves.

　　When calling a cat, slightly raise your pitch and lower your tone. A happy cat will respond. But don’t insist on repeatedly calling it. The cat language world is hard to master, and careless calling can turn into provocation. Two or three words are enough. Once the conversation establishes, stop talking and quietly observe its actions or take peaceful photos.

　　5. People who let cats sleep comfortably

　　A cat’s daily life is eating, drinking, pooping, peeing, and sleeping, with sleeping taking up a large portion. If cats sleep uneasily, don’t blame them for treating you coldly. Some cats who like sleeping in their beds are more easy-going, but those who like to sleep on people’s legs are harder to please. For cats with poor awareness, don’t put them directly on your legs but instead sit beside them when they’re sleepy, offering massages and caresses to please them. Some cats will rest their head or paws on your leg when drowsy. If such intimate actions don’t occur, gently move them onto your thigh in an appropriate way. They won’t resist if done right. If the cat senses your ulterior motives, stop and wait for a better moment to try again.

　　Eventually, you will move the cat onto your entire thigh. In the best case, the cat will actively climb onto your thigh and choose the best spot. Once the cat likes your comfortable thigh, it will slowly fall in love with you.